how we met…

December 18, 2008

So I’ve been told I don’t share enough juicy details on this blog! So for anyone who is curious about our story (it is not juicy at all!)…here is how it all began!

I started school at Montclair State in September 2005, and decided that I should probably get involved in organizations to meet people and make friends and enjoy my college “experience”.  So the first or second night in my dorm my roommate  and I and heard an announcement for the ASSIST coffeehouse that night.  ASSIST is a a charity organiation (Active Students Serving in Society Together) on campus.  My roommate and I decided to go.   I saw Ralph there but I didn’t meet him – I saw him doing Karaoke  and I definitely noticed him but I don’t really remember being attracted to him.  I spent some time talking to this other person who invited me to the weekly meeting of ASSIST, and I decided to go the following Monday.

When I went I saw Ralph again, and found out his name and that he was the president of the organization.  We were sitting in a circle for the meeting and Ralph was wearing a shirt that said “yeah, Christians are hypocrites” on the front and that was all I could see.   I was curious about what the back said and then the person who invited me to ASSIST took me over to Ralph to introduce us and that person said to me “Ralph is really into church and everything” or something like that.  So I was introduced to Ralph and I said something like “what does the back of your shirt say?”  and he turned around and it said “But God’s not done with us yet” and it had a Bible verse from Philippians on it.  So we started talking a little bit and then I left.  I didn’t think much about him until a few nights later.

here is ralph in the shirt he wore the night we met

here is ralph in the shirt he wore the night we met

I got an email like two evenings later from Ralph asking if I had a church to go to.  I replied and said yes.  He replied and asked me for my AIM screenname.  I gave it to him.   We started talking online and he asked me to come hear him play the piano in the student center.  It was like 11:00 at night.   I said no…I was already ready for bed, and I didn’t even know him.  He was very persistent and I eventually decided to go mainly because he wouldn’t take no for an answer.  So I went against my better judgement and thought to myself “now I’ll have to pretend that I like his singing and his piano playing but it’s probably not good”.

this is us in March 2006, 6 months after we started dating

this is us in March 2006, 6 months after we started dating

So  I met him at the student center and he played the piano for me and sang to me and he has an amazing voice.  He played and sang and we talked about our lives and about our faith and that was it.  He didn’t even walk me back to my dorm, but   I really liked him after that night and hoped we would get to see each other again.  He started asking me to hang out and do stuff with him more and more and we were spending more and more time together.  He asked me to be his girlfriend sometime in mid-September and I said I’d think about it.  We officially started dating on September 29, 2005!

here's us on our 1 year dating anniversary

here's us on our 1 year dating anniversary

And that is how we met and started dating!  Not too exciting but it is a very special story to us.   Then on August 16th of this year he asked me to be his wife!! Maybe sometime I’ll put the story here…



the jcrew dresses came!

December 16, 2008

I am so excited! When my mom told me they came I felt like it was Christmas and ripped open the box.   I tried them both styles on just to see how they look since niether of my sisters are home right now. Here they are – let me know what you think!  I really have the feeling that one of these is going to be it!





lots still to do

December 14, 2008

4 months to go! We still need to

  • choose a menu
  • meet with the musicians
  • meet with the photographer
  • order/send invitations
  • find a bridesmaids dress
  • get a veil/shoes
  • find a hairdresser
  • book honeymoon flight
  • lots of other stuff

bridesmaids dresses

December 14, 2008

Still on the lookout for a great bridesmaid dress…we had to send back the lace ones from target but we ordered 2 from J. Crew this week.  My cousin Hilary found one of them and sent me the link and I loved it.  The dresses haven’t come in the mail yet and then all three girls have to try them on so my hopes aren’t up but these are the ones we ordered


Above is the one Hilary found – you can see it better on the jcrew website


I love this one too…we ordered it in brown obviously – and we would probaby tie the bow in the back.  You can see more pictures here

My sister Laura has also been doing a lot of searching for a great dress and found one that I really like.  This may be our next option if the J. Crew ones don’t work out.   Its from Nordstrom – you can see more details on the website


Let me know what you think!


November 22, 2008

This has been a productive couple weeks! We found a photographer as I wrote in our last post, but as of Wednesday we also found a florist!  I just have to call her to confirm and give her a deposit.   Her name is Nancy and she’s from Precious Petals Too in Fairfield, NJ.   I love her!  She seems like she’s going to be great!!  We talked about everything and got some ideas for bouquets and centerpieces.  The colors I told her were mainly yellows and cremes but I said I’m not opposed to a little pink.  My bouquet is probably going to have buttercream roses, white lilac, gerbera daisies, and freesia.  The bridesmaids’ bouquets will be similar but no lilac and more yellows and pinks.

I am SO excited about what we talked about for centerpieces!!

I can’t wait for April 11th!!  Less than 5 months to go!!

Visit her website:

Precious Petals Too

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November 14, 2008

We have a photographer! We haven’t signed the contract yet but we will be shortly.  My roommate Rachael is getting married in June and found a great photographer from Red Umbrella Studios and Ralph and I decided to go with him as well.

Check out his website

He takes gorgeous pictures and his prices are very reasonable.

153 days to go!!

November 8, 2008

153 days til our wedding.  Still lots to do

-pick a photographer

-visit florist

-finalize stuff with string quartet

-choose menu

-choose/mail invitations

-finalize bridesmaids dresses

lots more….I’m loving this but I’m glad I only have to do this once in my life (unless I have daughters!).  All the planning and thought will be worth it on April 11th when Ralph kisses me and my dad pronounces us husband and wife!